This is a story of an interpersonal conflict that could occur because of bad communication methods. I am writing this story from the point of view of Cecilia. How would you solve it if you were Cecilia?
It was the beginning of the semester. Cecilia and Jane as well as their significant others have just been selected to be part of the management committee (PAW). All of them knew each other from the previous semester although they have never really worked together.
Being a person with a corporate mindset, Jane was worried that having two couples in the same management committee would compromise professionalism.
Jane then asked Cecilia’s significant other to advise her to adhere to professionalism throughout the term. Cecilia became upset.
How Cecilia feels:
· Cecilia felt that she was not given enough trust to be professional enough.
· Cecilia also felt that it was quite an insult to her capabilities.
· Cecilia felt that Jane should have talked to her herself if she needs to advise him. Having a third party do it also showed that Jane was not behaving professionally herself.
· Because Cecilia’s significant other was the one doing the advising, she felt that he did not trust her to be professional too.
How Jane might have felt:
· She wanted to prevent anything bad from happening before it actually had a chance to happen
· She didn’t know how to broach the subject to Cecilia and thought that it will be better to let Cecilia’s significant other do the talking.
If you were Cecilia, what would you do? Cecilia is definitely hurt because her abilities were being doubted even before she could do anything to prove it.
What if she did show that she is unhappy about this but Jane ignored her? Should she still try to solve the problem (although Jane is clearly not interested in solving it) or should she do her job but ignore Jane?